It might be indelicate to say I loved a book about a man dealing with his wife’s fatal illness, but I did. It was good because of what he minimized: his wife’s emotional turmoil; platitudes of the meaning of death and dying; the profundity of a higher power; and wallowing in his own grief. Instead, he focused on his experience and taught me a lot.
He described many poignant moments. My favorite was a description of her shoe becoming untied at the airport after an exhausting trip. Not wanting help, his wife said to wait until she fell, she would have less distance to cover to tie it. Instead, he tied her shoe in a double knot and let the reader know she hated double knots. In that one brief paragraph, he captured her, his love and included the reader in an intimate moment.
He was able to portray a human perspective of Out of the Inferno: A Husband’s Passage Through Cancerland, did not overdramatize, described his research in cancer recovery, and shared highs and lows before, during and after his wife’s journey and death.
Randy Evans is a good writer, thoughtful and concise, with a charming ineptness with analogies. I recommend his book to everyone who wants to understand life and how to live it, and how to let go.